Some help for first online dating message
Online Desk
27 Feb 2016 01:37 AM
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So you've joined an online dating site, and someone has caught your eye - so, what now?
The first message you send can make or break your chances of a successful first date-- so it's important you get it right.
After all, first impressions matter-- especially when you're not meeting face to face.
1. Humor works a treat
Most online daters are looking for 'someone that can make them laugh'.
Avoid being cheesy though-- aim your joke at something you both have in common-- perhaps something in her profile-- maybe a movie? How about a film quote?
2. Everyone loves a compliment
Prove you've actually read her profile with a compliment about her taste in music, a great restaurant, or a country he's visited.
Warm compliments work well in first messages, but superficial ones can have a reverse effect, or come across as weird-- so stick to something factual.
3. Start with shared interests
Finding some common ground can open the door for great conversation.
Look through his/her music interests, favorite foods, their job and try and spark up conversation based on what they're into.
4. Ask a question
But make sure it's an open one, or the conversation could end before it's begun.
Avoid suggesting a face-to-face date in your first message, instead stick to something you've seen on their profile - do you share the same music taste? Has she seen your favorite band live?
5. Nervous? Keep it simple
Get their attention with a simple 'hey'-- it's tested, and it works.
Your initial message should be straight and to the point-- but make sure you follow up with something more creative, perhaps an open question, or a straight forward how are you?
Source: The Mirror
