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In the West, we are often told terrible stories about women
in the Global South countries being subjected to male violence and then
punished afresh by “community leaders” and the courts.
Most feminists in Europe and the US, for example, would know
that premarital sex is criminalised in Saudi Arabia and that hospitals and
health centres are compelled to report the pregnancies of single women to
police – including those resulting from rape. They would also know about “honour killings” of women and girls in
countries like Albania and Kurdistan for breaking patriarchal rules, such as
having sexual relationships outside of marriage.
Some who decry such abuses and atrocities in the Global
South, however, appear not to be aware that this type of sexist victim blaming
is not confined to the Global South; it also happens in the Global North.
So-called “honour killings” also happen in the UK, for example, within both
conservative religious communities and secular ones.
I have long been working to raise awareness on this issue
and prevent it happening to women in my home country, the United Kingdom. In
1990, I co-founded Justice for Women in response to the harsh treatment meted
out to women who defended themselves against rape or sexual violence – by the
criminal justice system, the media, and wider society. I had seen several cases
of men killing their wives for spurious reasons, and walking free from court.
Excuses such as “She nagged me”, or “I found her in bed with another man” were
accepted by judges and jurors as reasonable grounds for men to “snap” and kill
women. Meanwhile, women who were driven to kill or maim their male partners
after years of violence, often in fear for their lives or those of their
children, were treated as cold-blooded murderers and punished as such by
British courts, targeted by the media, and shunned by society.
We have undoubtedly made some progress in shedding light on
the issue in the past three decades, but the criminalisation of survivors of
male violence in the UK, by the courts as well as society at large, is far from
over.
Today, at least 57 percent of women in prison in the UK are
survivors of domestic abuse, and for many of them, this abuse is directly
linked to the reason for their incarceration (while, in most cases, their
abusers remain free). The true number is likely significantly higher because
many choose not to disclose their victim status, even when it could help
explain the motivations behind the crimes they are accused of. Despite this, criminal justice agencies
rarely acknowledge that a woman has been a victim of male violence, and treat
this as a mitigating factor, when prosecuting her for a related offence
(including defending herself against the perpetrator).
Examples of such re-victimisation and criminalisation of
survivors of male violence by British courts are all around us.
A film by the UK-based Centre for Women’s Justice (CWJ),
titled Stop Criminalising Survivors, launched earlier this month tells the
stories of five such women, convicted of offences ranging from perverting the
course of justice to murder, all as a result of the abuse they endured at the
hands of a male partner. CWJ hopes the film will help educate criminal justice
agencies and women’s support services on the reasons female victims of male
violence end up in prison.
One of the women featured in the CWJ film is Farieissia
Martin who, aged 22 and with two small children, killed her extremely violent
partner, Kyle Farrell. Farrell had raped
her repeatedly, and she had undergone several abortions as a result. Family and
friends had regularly seen her face covered in bruises. The night she killed
him, he had given her another beating, convincing Farieissia that if she didn’t
do something, she was going to die at his hands. Having access to all this
information, and knowing well that she acted in self-defence, the courts still
convicted her of murder. Farieissia served seven years in prison before
successfully appealing her conviction. The only reason she was able to overturn
her conviction was that she was represented at appeal by feminist lawyers
equipped with an in-depth understanding of the effects of domestic violence.
These days feminists are routinely blamed for exaggerating
male violence, making women “scared of men”, and causing them to limit their
lives by taking precautions. Meanwhile, women are blamed for being raped (“she
was drinking/flirting/wearing revealing clothing”) or suffering domestic abuse
(“she wound him up/enjoyed the drama”). Girls are blamed, and shamed, for being
abused into prostitution. This victim blaming, still prevalent in most
societies, reaches its ultimate form when women are punished and sent to prison
for being victimised or defending themselves against their abusers.
When we are blamed for what men do to us, we get a double
dose of punishment – while our male abusers are handed free rein. This happens
routinely in the Global South, but it happens in the North too.
Lesbians in South Africa experience horrors like “punishment
rape” for daring to reject men, but so do women in the UK. It is true that
women are killed in Iran for supposed missteps like speaking to a man outside
the family, but so do women in the UK –
one woman is killed by a man known to her every three days in England
and Wales.
Men’s violence towards women and girls is global, and
wherever it occurs, the blame is often diverted onto the victims. It is crucial
that we speak of the rapist more than we do of the raped, and of the batterer
rather than the battered. Let’s place the blame firmly on the guilty, and
ensure we never, ever, look to the actions of the victims in an attempt to
justify such atrocities against women. Women should never be criminalised and
punished, anywhere, for being subjected to male violence or defending themselves
against it.
The author is a journalist, author and feminist
campaigner. Her book Feminism for Women: The Real Route to Liberation,
(Constable, Robinson) was published in May 2021
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